Was randomly browsing RocketNews and came across this article. Even though the video (embedded below) is focused on Japanese girls, the three red flags mentioned can pretty much be applied to any type of relationship. It all sounds very common-sensical, but I’ve experienced it first hand: People do a lot of stupid things for the sake of love.
There is a paragraph in that article which really caught my eye:
Nobita goes on to add that as far as his personal list deal breakers goes, two and three are the same, but seeing as he isn’t getting pursued by any gaijin hunters, his number one turn off is women that are too clingy and don’t have their own personal hobbies and goals, or understand the need for time apart every now and then.
If you are not able to accept the part in bold as a girlfriend, then you’re definitely not ready for a relationship. Or even marriage.
It is not a sin to spend time on a hobby or passion.